Lauren PooleMatric Peer Guide and Term 3 Initiative Coordinator It is so easy to feel that you're disappointing your parents or those around you when you don't receive the results they expect from you. But I'd like to pose a question: What do you expect from yourself?
I like this question because it's one that only you can answer. Clear your mind of all external expectations, take a step back and really think about it. Expectations are tricky because they are relative. Your goals will not be the same as the next person’s, and that’s a good thing to keep in mind at all times. At the foundation of it all, you should strive to be the best possible version of yourself. But how can we really achieve this? Here are a few things to consider when setting your own standards: 1. You should treat yourself as a valuable friend. Think about it, when your friend fails a test you don’t scold them for not working hard enough or being stupid, you encourage them to do better in the next test because you believe they are capable of it. You would never bring one of your closest friends down with words, so why do it to yourself? Why do we insist on berating ourselves when we can use disappointments and failures as motivation? This negative self-talk only leads to a warped negative view of ourselves. The more you encourage yourself, the greater the things you do. 2. Know what you are capable of, but do not limit yourself. When setting goals, it is important that these goals are realistic and attainable. Smaller, attainable goals work together to create a bigger picture. The reason why the words "you can do anything you set your mind to" is constantly repeated is because it holds a lot of truth. When you start to believe in yourself, you start to expand your limitations and what you are capable of becomes greater. 3. Know when to work. Without being too repetitive, always remember that you can't get anything out without putting anything in. If you're truly serious about achieving something, you'll be willing to put the work in. Consistency is key in this regard, and the best thing to do is to just start. 4. Know when to take a break. Working hard is important, but so is taking a break. Your health, physically and mentally, should always be prioritised. According to psychologytoday, breaks restore motivation. Taking short intervals can improve focus and help you to better complete any task. As we approach the second half of this term and Matrics prepare for mocks, remember to stay focused on your goals and live up to your own standards. Show yourself what you are able to do.
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