I’m a hopeless romantic on Valentine's Day. I love the hearts, the chocolate and the anticipation of hearing my name being called in assembly to receive a rose. I can't help it, as I’m a Libra my sign is ruled by Venus, the planet of love and being a firm believer in astrology I’m compelled to swoon, I even have special Valentine’s Day outfits. However this day becomes particularly dreadful when I’m alone.
The concept of ‘self love’ might seem a bit heartbreaking on a day devoted to others showing their affection for you publicly, but truly it is the key to more success in any relationship. Instead of focusing on having a significant other this Valentines Day, why don’t you focus on a you that treats you right.
The greatest love of all is the one that you foster for yourself. Falling in love with yourself is as beautiful as any experience of love can be. This does not mean you are selfish, conceited or vain but simply acknowledging your worth as a human being and until you can love yourself, you will not be able to love anyone else. You can only love another to the degree in which you love yourself.
Take time to get to know yourself - learn and grow. Once you've accomplished this you won't need to search for love and it won't have to find you either, it'll come from within. This means taking care of your mind, body and soul whether that be through meditation, learning a new language, spending time in nature, exercising, listening to music or taking the time to appreciate the little thing which make you happy.
Your self worth is not determined by others and you shouldn’t let this get you down.
Worry about loving yourself instead of loving the idea of other people loving you. Loving yourself starts with liking yourself, which starts with respecting yourself, which starts with thinking of yourself in a positive way. Why wait for love from someone else when you can love yourself right now.
It's easy to have the Valentines blues when you’re alone but give this a thought: being in a relationship makes it much harder to pursue self-love. When you’re sharing yourself and your time with another person, you neglect spending time with yourself, alone. This doesn't mean just pampering yourself but really taking the time to figure out who you are and what you want. Being in a relationship doesn’t define you and shouldn’t be the epitome of your Valentine’s Day, instead fall for you and appreciate yourself for the divine being that you are.
Here’s my challenge for you today: Take a picture of your face and remember that in 10 years time you will be amazed at how gorgeous you were. Be amazed now.